As I’m writing this, its Tuesday february 21st and we are moving in 3 days. Now I’m sitting here feeding my fish and telling them all about the house we’re moving into and just reflecting on the whole process. I was just thinking about the criteria we had in mind for a new home and how much our needs have changed over the span of a few years.
This is the third house we’ve bought, and I’ve never been particularly picky. I’ve always just wanted a few things and the rest I’ll let the misses decide on. I’ve told her several times, “you pick out a house you like, and I’ll buy it for ya.” As long as I have a creepy basement to write in I’ll be happy (which this one has a superb basement for writing in)
So I was thinking, aside from a basement to write spooky stories in, what makes an ideal home for me? Several little things, but one particular bit of criteria that brought me to write this tonight is bedrooms. How many bedrooms does a family need? This is one of the few criteria my wife and I have different thoughts on. I write this somewhat in the form of a real question and I’m hoping for some real feedback on it.
I always wanted each of my children to have their own bedroom. In fact, when we decided on having a fourth, I had to overcome the fact that we didn’t have 5 bedrooms to be okay with having a fourth.
I’ve got it in my head that kids all need their own individual bedrooms. I’m a middle child. Do you know what that means? It means that I had to share everything I ever had in life with either my older, or my younger sibling. Thats right! Including my bedroom.
To this day, as a full grown adult, dad of the house, the guy who brings home the bacon, it is still imbedded deep in my brain that if there is only one of some snack left in the fridge or the pantry, it is for someone else. I cannot eat the last apple, the last zebra cake, the last popcsicle, the last anything. Not until I offer it to everyone else first. That is weak I know, but its how middle children are programmed.
I’m going off into the weeds now. Have you ever seen the movie Seven brides for seven brothers? Its one of my all time favorite films and has been since an early age. Its a musical from 1954 and I’d suggest you go watch it. Especially if you lean toward being supportive of the feminist movement, you’ll really enjoy this film.
You see, what happens is these 7 dudes (they’re brothers) that live together all decide that they need women to take care of their house and cook for them. So, they ride off into town with a wagon, they grab the seven best looking gals they can find, they snatch em up, toss em in the wagon, and drag them back up into the mountain where they all live happily ever after. If you want to get the gist, but don’t want to commit to watching the whole flick, just check out this 3 minute clip of the boys singing a song called Sobbin Women It’ll be a hoot! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZyMc29QQK8 just copy and paste that link or whatever it is you kids do.
Well anyway, all the women have to share a room for the first winter, because believe it or not they don’t really feel like bunking up with the dudes right off the bat, see? When I think about a bunch of girls sharing a room I’m reminded of that movie and how crammed together all those girls are. Back on track Dustin, you’re losing them. Not to mention you’re probably getting hate mail from some offended women now. Good going. Everybody just calm down!
I just want all of my kids to experience having something they don’t have to share; their own space. I’m well aware that kids having their own rooms is not a necessity, and is very much a luxury. With four kids its hard to even find a house with enough bedrooms to accommodate such a set up. And trust me. I’ve heard over and over again about how “when I was growing up, I had 7 sisters and 9 brothers, and all the boys slept in one room, and all the girls slept in the other, and we grew up just fine.” My own dad grew up in a modest home with 4 sisters who all shared a room while he enjoyed his own room. I’m hoping to get real feedback on this. What are your thoughts, what are the bedroom set ups for your kids, and how did you decide on what you did?
There, I’ll keep this on the shorter side of 1000 words. You’re tired, so am I, we all gotta work in the morning or whatever, so do what it is you lovely folks do. Drop me some comments if you’re feelin froggy, and we’ll all chat it out. My 10pm nachos are callin my name. See ya later folks. (nikki, I didn’t even read through this one a second time, I just wrote it and blamo! Sent it on to the interwebs. So there should be all kids of mess for you to point out to me. Zero editing hunny buns, thats how I get down! And on top of that I rant on in one ongoing parentheses at the end! Its almost like a movie that has an easter egg at the end of the credits. Alright I’m done.)